Remember how we had to make an awful decision about our niece and nephews? Well, their mom made the decision for us. We told her we were going to sue for custody and she came the next week with boxes for the kids to start packing up.
The idea was for her to come and get them with a u-haul the Friday after school let out. We had plans to take them out to eat and make a big deal of how much fun they would have with their mom. And to make sure they knew how much we would miss them.
Of course their mother could give a shit about our plans. She called on their last day at school saying she was already in town with the u-haul. What? Like she didn't know she was going to do that before she got there. I was completely heart broken, I was worried that Robert wouldn't even get home in time to say good-bye. Their mom came in and started packing, ignoring me and my children because we're evil for trying to get her to step up and be a parent, or just give up custody. How dare we?
I lamented my frustration to Grandpa, he seemed confused. He had a very "The sooner, the better" and "Good riddance" attitude. I got angry at him, telling him "well, you don't care anyway." and calling Robert to vent. I know he was frustrated and tired. But he didn't seem to get that we may not be seeing them again. It's not like their mom is not going to bring them to visit. I was disappointed and angry.
We got to spend an hour with them before they left. I cried and assured them that if they needed anything they could call anytime.
So far they have talked to Grandpa a few times and are doing great. The evil teenager has a father figure now that he desperately needed. Christopher was mostly excited that he got a Wii. They are all happy with their new house and looking forward to new schools. I hope it stays that way.
And Grandpa's attitude? He now regrets it and misses them. He's glad to not be taking care of them, but he wishes he hadn't been so flippant about them leaving. Not much he can do now though.
What's the hardest decision that you had to make? Did it turn out okay, or not?